I no longer have any desire to be part of this “elite” group that seems to measure friendship by such rigid and unkind standards.

During lunch, they were excitedly telling me about a new gourmet group they were forming—a rotating dinner party. I said that it sounded like a lot of fun and that I was interested in joining. The next time we met,

I no longer have any desire to be part of this “elite” group that seems to measure friendship by such rigid and unkind standards. However, I’m left wondering how to handle this situation. Should I confront my friend about how hurtful their words were,

To my shock and dismay, I was told, in a roundabout way, that I wouldn’t be included. My friend said, “I am going to be very selective about who I include because there are some people who think parties are ‘the more the merrier,